Self control

[Chingaso]

What to do? What to do?

What do you do when you figure out what it is about someone that bugs you so much, but making it public would probably cause the person a large amount of embarrassment, plus there would be some backlash based on the fact that there's really no call to humiliate them publicly, no matter how much they bother you?

Oh, and how long a grammatically correct sentence can you construct? :twisted:

[Fallacy]

If it's something the public should know about, there's no restraint for me. Otherwise, if it's just an incident that only impacts myself, I don't feel a need to say anything about it, except to that person.

[Noury]

I have to agree with Fallacy for the most part. Just speaking from my own experiences, (others may have different results obviously) there is a high backfire probability with any public admonishing or embarassment on an individual who might have a lot of friends, or at least sympathizers. Not saying it will happen, just that there is a good chance.

It could very well end up with you being the brunt of many "aww, thats mean!", or " Dude, did you have to say that to everyone? "

If your satisfied that you know what it is about a person that bothers you, I guess you have 2 options; tell them about it (in a polite, contructive way at first), or don't tell them and just choose to ignore that thing that makes your skin crawl.

Now, if its hurting others or its something you suspect might hurt others, then it gets dicey. I really can't see any easy answers there except inform whomever you think needs to know, but no more.

Eventually it will be leaked out anyway..


Oh and if its me.. go ahead and post it.. I can take it..
:wink:

[Vilmah]

I kept quiet.

I once discovered that someone who was always bitchy to me in-game was really really ugly in real life. Did I say anything? No. Then I'd be just as bad as her. She doesn't need me to tell her she's ugly. Her personality reflects her unhappiness, and I'm fine with that.

[Aendra]

I kept quiet.

I once discovered that someone who was always bitchy to me in-game was really really ugly in real life. Did I say anything? No. Then I'd be just as bad as her. She doesn't need me to tell her she's ugly. Her personality reflects her unhappiness, and I'm fine with that.

Vilmah.. did you have to let everyone know?! :oops:

[Vilmah]

lol!! You've never been mean to me... *hugs n' kisses!*

[Karkarov]

Keep it to yourself. If the person bothers you that much it is very easy to just put them on ignore in game and not read thier posts here. I already do it for a few people. If it is something they did unless it affected the whole forum/server population ((dont see how it possibly could)) then I cant imagine any reason to bring it up publically.

[Redburn]

Keep it to your self. As long as you are the only one bothered by this person's habit. Maybe even talk to the person, as he/she may not even be aware that they are doing something.

[Abric]

I said shout it out... but only because keeping things to yourself doesn't resolve anything, and typically makes *you* an unhappy person.

Though, I don't agree with diming people out in public. That's reserved for only the very few that really, really deserve it.

Got a beef with somebody? Tell it to their face. If you got to do it publicly, do it with some tact. You don't have to be nice about it; you should just be frank.

Personally, I don't like Vilmah. Her bewbies control the pitch and roll of forum posts. But, I wouldn't say to to her face that she needs to get to the kitchen to learn her place... at least publicly.

Publicly, I'd tell her to keep her butt dogs at bay - because they are pooping all over my yard.

...

Yeah. That'd be a good way to put it.

AbricOOC
~Lonely inside

[Fhenrir]

I'd most likely bring it up privately with this person.

Depending on the situation though it's possible I just wouldn't bring it up; if someone is that obnoxious then maybe they aren't worth the trouble.

[Chingaso]

Funny how everyone automatically assumes that it's someone on this forum.

[Fhenrir]

It's clearly Abric. Don't lie!

[Chingaso]

It's clearly Abric. Don't lie!
Nope. I have no idea what Abric's problem is... :P :twisted:

(Note emoticons to indicate sarcasm...)

[Grolish]

::Points to the High Road::

That path won't steer you wrong.

If you sink to their level, you usually end up just getting dirty.

Grolish

[Nadea]

I'd keep quiet. I have a horrible time with confronting people, at least to thier faces. I can confront OTHER people with my problem about someone...well, I can confront Keraph with my problems about other people at least. He has to hear EVERYTHING =D

[EnheilRas]

Bwuahaha.. I don't even need to say a word.

[Teelia]

Isn't this what the Sanguiary is for?

:twisted:

[Caelyn]

I keep it to myself and avoid the person until, either A) I come to terms with the fact they will always bug me or B) They make a total ass out of themselves to that the whole world now knows what they do to bug me.

[Lelenia]

I just chalk it up to the Mother's Curse for vengance down the road.